Comments for butforwhy? http://nubilous.org Gary's various ramblings about life Sun, 20 May 2012 11:11:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 Comment on Just the 2 of us!!!! by Nicky http://nubilous.org/2008/09/05/just-the-2-of-us/#comment-51 Nicky Sat, 06 Sep 2008 00:58:35 +0000 http://nubilous.org/?p=56#comment-51 That must be really tough. I can't even begin to imagine what you are feeling ... many different things I'm sure. You are very brave! And I guess time is the best medicine. Keep positive :) That must be really tough. I can’t even begin to imagine what you are feeling … many different things I’m sure. You are very brave! And I guess time is the best medicine. Keep positive :)

]]> Comment on Lost & Confused by Seon http://nubilous.org/2008/08/03/lost-confused/#comment-50 Seon Thu, 04 Sep 2008 23:46:13 +0000 http://nubilous.org/?p=49#comment-50 There are phases that we all experience after a painful event First, there is denial, then realisation of the painful occurrence and guilt next is anger; why should this happen to me? Finally as part of the healing process there is acceptance During these periods, we experience all types of hell, self-doubt, sorrow, feelings of inadequacy, guilt, shame and loss. It is no use examining our past and chastising ourselves for what we are; that is long gone. Sure, it has influenced our just shattered relationship. It is important to gain an insight into our behaviour, correct what we consider our failings and strive to improve. We must never dwell on the past but having learned our lesson well we must look to our strengths and good qualities building on that for our future well being and happiness. We must ensure that we do not perpetuate the errors of our ways And eventually with acceptance, we emerge as a stronger, wiser and better person. I know this is easy to write for it takes a long time, emotional pain and courage. Please be assured, everything passes with time Having learned from the devastation of the fateful event, we are able to move forward as a stronger, wiser and better person, never to repeat the same mistakes Just around the corner joy and happiness await I empathise with your pain I am proud of you and love you There are phases that we all experience after a painful event

First, there is denial, then realisation of the painful occurrence and guilt next is anger; why should this happen to me? Finally as part of the healing process there is acceptance

During these periods, we experience all types of hell, self-doubt, sorrow, feelings of inadequacy, guilt, shame and loss. It is no use examining our past and chastising ourselves for what we are; that is long gone. Sure, it has influenced our just shattered relationship. It is important to gain an insight into our behaviour, correct what we consider our failings and strive to improve. We must never dwell on the past but having learned our lesson well we must look to our strengths and good qualities building on that for our future well being and happiness. We must ensure that we do not perpetuate the errors of our ways

And eventually with acceptance, we emerge as a stronger, wiser and better person. I know this is easy to write for it takes a long time, emotional pain and courage.

Please be assured, everything passes with time

Having learned from the devastation of the fateful event, we are able to move forward as a stronger, wiser and better person, never to repeat the same mistakes

Just around the corner joy and happiness await

I empathise with your pain

I am proud of you and love you

]]> Comment on Its a done deal by Seon http://nubilous.org/2008/07/27/its-a-done-deal/#comment-49 Seon Thu, 04 Sep 2008 19:54:15 +0000 http://nubilous.org/?p=36#comment-49 There are phases that we all experience after a painful event First, there is denial, then realisation of the painful occurrence and guilt next is anger; why should this happen to me? Finally as part of the healing process there is acceptance During these periods, we experience all types of hell, self-doubt, sorrow, feelings of inadequacy, guilt, shame and loss. It is no use examining our past and chastising ourselves for what we are; that is long gone. Sure, it has influenced our just shattered relationship. It is important to gain an insight into our behaviour, correct what we consider our failings and strive to improve. We must never dwell on the past but having learned our lesson well we must look to our strengths and good qualities building on that for our future well being and happiness. We must ensure that we do not perpetuate the errors of our ways And eventually with acceptance, we emerge as a stronger, wiser and better person. I know this is easy to write for it takes a long time, emotional pain and courage. Please be assured, everything passes with time Having learned from the devastation of the fateful event, we are able to move forward as a stronger, wiser and better person, never to repeat the same mistakes Just around the corner joy and happiness await I empathise with your pain I am proud of you and love you There are phases that we all experience after a painful event

First, there is denial, then realisation of the painful occurrence and guilt next is anger; why should this happen to me? Finally as part of the healing process there is acceptance

During these periods, we experience all types of hell, self-doubt, sorrow, feelings of inadequacy, guilt, shame and loss. It is no use examining our past and chastising ourselves for what we are; that is long gone. Sure, it has influenced our just shattered relationship. It is important to gain an insight into our behaviour, correct what we consider our failings and strive to improve. We must never dwell on the past but having learned our lesson well we must look to our strengths and good qualities building on that for our future well being and happiness. We must ensure that we do not perpetuate the errors of our ways

And eventually with acceptance, we emerge as a stronger, wiser and better person. I know this is easy to write for it takes a long time, emotional pain and courage.

Please be assured, everything passes with time

Having learned from the devastation of the fateful event, we are able to move forward as a stronger, wiser and better person, never to repeat the same mistakes

Just around the corner joy and happiness await

I empathise with your pain

I am proud of you and love you

]]> Comment on Its a done deal by Caring Observer http://nubilous.org/2008/07/27/its-a-done-deal/#comment-33 Caring Observer Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:23:44 +0000 http://nubilous.org/?p=36#comment-33 I think you are handling things in a very mature way. I'm sure there will be times when you feel sad, and down, but they will get fewer and fewer. You are a great guy - someone out there will be very fortunate to meet you. I think you are handling things in a very mature way. I’m sure there will be times when you feel sad, and down, but they will get fewer and fewer.
You are a great guy - someone out there will be very fortunate to meet you.

]]> Comment on Lost & Confused by A fellow single sympathiser http://nubilous.org/2008/08/03/lost-confused/#comment-32 A fellow single sympathiser Mon, 04 Aug 2008 07:11:09 +0000 http://nubilous.org/?p=49#comment-32 I think it is normal to feel indifferent initially. It's rather like an out of body experience. And you keep wondering: is this really happening. But then when it does eventually settle in you’ll be left with this terrible empty feeling and that’s when it begins to sting and eat away at you. And I doubt things will get easier. Well, at least it will take quite a while for that to happen. If I can give you my two cents worth: don’t bottle it up. Talk. Vent. Even if you feel you are driving people mad. Also gym is good. But most importantly be prepared for the unexpected because your emotions are going to do strange things to you over the next few months. I think it is normal to feel indifferent initially. It’s rather like an out of body experience. And you keep wondering: is this really happening. But then when it does eventually settle in you’ll be left with this terrible empty feeling and that’s when it begins to sting and eat away at you. And I doubt things will get easier. Well, at least it will take quite a while for that to happen.

If I can give you my two cents worth: don’t bottle it up. Talk. Vent. Even if you feel you are driving people mad. Also gym is good. But most importantly be prepared for the unexpected because your emotions are going to do strange things to you over the next few months.

]]> Comment on Its a done deal by Brett http://nubilous.org/2008/07/27/its-a-done-deal/#comment-31 Brett Thu, 31 Jul 2008 07:16:28 +0000 http://nubilous.org/?p=36#comment-31 Good to see you this week. You're looking happier than you have in a long time... Good to see you this week. You’re looking happier than you have in a long time…

]]> Comment on Moving on by Its a done deal » butforwhy? http://nubilous.org/2008/05/29/moving-on/#comment-30 Its a done deal » butforwhy? Sun, 27 Jul 2008 17:33:02 +0000 http://nubilous.org/?p=9#comment-30 [...] mentioned in a previous post (moving on) that my wife and I were going to make a go of making our marriage work. Unfortunately it [...] [...] mentioned in a previous post (moving on) that my wife and I were going to make a go of making our marriage work. Unfortunately it [...]

]]> Comment on Picking up the pieces…. by Seon http://nubilous.org/2008/07/21/picking-up-the-pieces/#comment-29 Seon Tue, 22 Jul 2008 17:22:54 +0000 http://nubilous.org/?p=23#comment-29 No, you did not word it badly, it is your belief system that dictates your charcter, your integrity and the honourable person you are Other people do not have your insight, integrity or honour and dissapoint you Without a belief system we have nothing and are nothing No, you did not word it badly, it is your belief system that dictates your charcter, your integrity and the honourable person you are

Other people do not have your insight, integrity or honour and dissapoint you

Without a belief system we have nothing and are nothing

]]> Comment on Picking up the pieces…. by gary http://nubilous.org/2008/07/21/picking-up-the-pieces/#comment-28 gary Tue, 22 Jul 2008 16:55:17 +0000 http://nubilous.org/?p=23#comment-28 perhaps I worded it badly. There isn't anything wrong with my belief system but it is just that a belief system. I missed the fact that there are beliefs and there is reality. At the end of the day reality will always win, I was under the impression that my beliefs were reality. Realising this made it easier for me to come to terms with the last few months. perhaps I worded it badly. There isn’t anything wrong with my belief system but it is just that a belief system. I missed the fact that there are beliefs and there is reality. At the end of the day reality will always win, I was under the impression that my beliefs were reality. Realising this made it easier for me to come to terms with the last few months.

]]> Comment on Picking up the pieces…. by Seon http://nubilous.org/2008/07/21/picking-up-the-pieces/#comment-27 Seon Tue, 22 Jul 2008 15:21:05 +0000 http://nubilous.org/?p=23#comment-27 Gary, have you thought that there is nothing wrong with your belief system and maybe the fault lies at the feet of the people you believed in Gary, have you thought that there is nothing wrong with your belief system and maybe the fault lies at the feet of the people you believed in

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